Imperfect Wellness

Do it to FEEL good, not to BE good. 

Let’s get one thing clear: wellness isn’t a checklist. It’s not a perfectly curated morning routine or a fridge full of green juices. It’s not yoga in matching sets or journaling with a set of pastel highlighters. It’s not 'doing wellness' so you can finally feel worthy, fixed, or good enough.

Wellness for me, is about feeling good — not being good at it.

And those are two very different things.

For a long time, I believed (and maybe you do too) that if I didn’t do it right, it didn’t count. That if I wasn’t stretching deep in yoga, clearing every thought in meditation, or following a structured morning routine, then maybe I wasn’t really doing wellness.

But here’s what I’ve come to learn and live: you don’t have to be perfect to participate in your own well-being.

You don’t have to be flexible to do yoga. You don’t have to empty your mind to meditate. You don’t have to journal with prompts or gratitude lists or neat handwriting. You don’t need to wake up at 5 a.m., drink lemon water, and read 10 pages before the sun rises.

Wellness can be loud. It can be lazy. It can be chaotic, delicious, inconvenient, or wildly inconsistent. And it’s still valid.

My Wellness Is Messy. And That’s Okay

Some days I move my body. Some days I don’t. Some days I cook a nourishing meal. Other days I eat pizza, crisps, and chocolate — with wine in hand and no guilt in sight.

I don’t subscribe to a morning routine because my mornings look different every day. Sometimes I wake up full of energy, other times I need slow, quiet space just to be. Some mornings, I journal. Other days, I scroll. I’m not here to shame myself for being human. Because you know what I’ve learned?

You cannot shame yourself into wellness.

Shame will never make you healthier, happier, or more at peace. It will only make you perform wellness, not actually live it.

Wellness Isn’t a Performance

I used to wait until I had the “right” conditions: the perfect time, the new notebook, the clear schedule, the better mood. But life doesn’t often serve up ideal circumstances on a silver platter — and in waiting for perfect, I ended up doing nothing. So I stopped waiting.

Now, my wellness is built on feeling into the moment, not forcing a standard. I trust myself to know what I need: sometimes that’s movement, sometimes stillness. Sometimes it’s a nourishing bowl of food, sometimes it’s whatever snacks are in the cupboard. And every time, I choose to own it.

Let Go of the “Shoulds”

Wellness isn’t supposed to feel like another way to punish yourself for not being enough. It’s not a system of rules or a path to moral superiority. It’s about building a relationship with your body, your mind, and your soul — and doing that in a way that works for you.

So if you’ve been putting off your wellness journey because you think it has to look a certain way, this is your permission to begin, messily. You don’t need matching gym sets or a morning routine that could go viral. You just need to show up, as you are.

You’re allowed to eat kale and love crisps.You’re allowed to meditate and still have a messy mind.You’re allowed to rest, and that still counts as wellness.

Your body doesn’t need to be punished into health.Your mind doesn’t need to be silenced into peace.Your life doesn’t need to be aesthetic to be worthy.

Wellness, Your Way

My wellness changes day by day. My needs change. My energy shifts. My body speaks and I try to listen. If you’re doing the things that help you feel more like yourself , whatever those look like, you’re already doing wellness.

Not to be good. But to feel good.And that, to me, is the most authentic kind of health there is.